I’ve been thinking a lot about what my nephew said when he looked at me on Face-Time and said, “wow, you don’t look like a fashion blogger right now, huh?” He was joking, but I have lost count of the times I had good content to share, but my hair needed a fresh color and I didn’t feel like getting dressed and putting make up on, so no video was produced that day… I missed the opportunity to share great content with my community because of vanity!
Does that affect you? Has that happened to you?
Are we perceived and judged by how we look?
This thought has been on my mind for over two months … when I got sick at a conference and had to go out and “look good”, even though I wasn’t feeling it … All I wanted to do was stay in bed!
Is our value based on our clothes and how we show ourselves in social media? As fashion blogger, I would say definitely yes, it comes with the territory.
But my standards have lowered … a lot! When I moved here from Brazil, I would not go grocery shopping unless I was all decked out, make up, hair, shoes and all! It’s a Brazilian thing, or maybe more of a Latina thing! Though some still tell me I’m always overdressed!!
The truth is we live in a culture where we create impressions about others based only on their appearance. We make judgements. We all do!
And it works both ways. How much of you is based on how you look, the make up you wear, the shoes you buy … how much of your physical appearance feeds your personality? How much of your personality is translated into the way you look?
Reading a recent article, I learned that studies show that “looking good” is a quality that receives preferential treatment in our society. Translating that – people with “more appealing faces” are judged more positively and feel more confident about themselves.
Not sure? Just remember the last time you had a mani/pedi, your hair done, bought new clothes? How did you feel??
How much did you want to hide, like me, when you have a bad hair day??? How you look has the ability to boost your confidence, changing how you project yourself to the outside world and what kind of message you are sending.
I truly believe how you look on the outside has a deep effect on how you look on the inside and vice versa, it’s like a tennis match.
That’s why I’m constantly looking for ways to reinvent myself – my appearance. What you see on the outside matches how I feel on the inside and it is reflected back, does that make sense?
One of my goals in 2017 is to look and feel even healthier and pursue beauty as a way to maintain what genetics gave me, instead of trying to change every single thing that bothers me! Feeling good on the inside, acting as a catalytic agent to propel my choices on the outside.
I feel good and look good, when the outfit, the make up, the shoes, yes, the shoes, are also in sync with how good I feel on the inside. For me, it’s never on the outside first, but it’s reflected there and that is what others perceive. They get the whole package!!! The Trendy is the real deal, not just in the blog name!
I would love to hear what you think! Please remember we’re not talking about stereotypes, looking thin or not, being pretty or not, we’re talking about feeling and looking good and how it is perceived by others.
As I stated earlier, this thought has been on my mind for over two months … when I got sick at a conference and had to go out and “look good”, even though I wasn’t feeling it…..but I knew as soon as I stepped out of the hotel room, everybody was expecting to see the Trendy Latina, so I had, with tons of concealer and a dark lipstick, to play the part!
What do you think? Do you agree with me? Do you feel better when you look better or do you look better when you feel better?
Can’t wait to hear what you think! As usual, give us a Trendy Shout!