Let me start by saying, parenting a teen is no joke! Nowadays, teens and technology help create an even bigger barrier in communication in our households. Trust me, I know all about it, because I do have a teen.
What I do want to share with you is that there are more ways than one to be more patient with the growing up tantrums and frowns, the mood swings and a complaining mode switch, which seems to be always on.
#1 Remember Kids Are Going To Be Kids
I often catch myself comparing my son’s behavior and grumpy moments with my own at his age. That often puts a smile on my face and though my husband calls my behavior “babying him”, for me it is more like I get it, you are a kid and kids are going to be kids.
#2 Have Fun With It
Instead of always complaining, why not have fun with your child in his teen years? I often bring jokes and laughter to lighten up those unbearable moments when you ask what did I do to deserve this???
#3 Act like a Teen
Sometimes I invert the roles and give my son a little dose of his own remedy: mood swings, “no” is my best friend and ignoring his requests and needs will go a long way to make him realize how he’s been behaving and it often changes his course of action, at least … for a short while.
#4 The Art of Negotiation
I often negotiate with my son. In the beginning of the school year I remind him that his grades dictate how much free time he will have, how much computer time, how many weekends off. Because life is about working towards your goals. So I start negotiating an expected behavior pattern, which comes, not from yelling but from setting cause + consequences and expectations being set ahead of time.
#5 Plant The Seeds
A wise friend used this expression on line the other day and I totally agree with it. It’s about leading by example, planting the seeds and using your actions to shape your teen into a well adjusted young adult.
I’m far from knowing it all, it’s a long road and my son’s teen years just started. But I truly believe, looking at my own teen years, acting with patience and love and using the tips above, helped me rise above those bad moments.
Think about my words next time your teen says no, lies to you, ignores the chores and responsibilities and act … like a teen.
No, it’s not an easy job, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in this world!
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