You know I don’t often blog about parenting, nor say much about my relationship with my son, because I believe he deserves privacy. But what happened last week was eye opening and I thought if I shared, other moms of teens would relate and it might possibly help in their own walk with their kids!
Last week I talked with my son about gratitude and how unhappy he is all the time, even though he has everything: love, friends, things, clothes, a beautiful home … a very good life!
I asked him, since he seems to be unhappy every time we go out, to list four places he wanted to go before the end of the summer and we would be doing all of them before labor day, but I expected gratitude and a happy attitude about the experience!
His happiness is above all things for me! His list was surprisingly simple, things I had no idea what he wanted to do … so this week, we start.
It’s more than following a list, my goal is to guide him to a place of gratitude and the fact that if he’s not happy after going to those places, he has nobody else but himself to blame.
Our life is full of choices, we make good and bad ones and we have to live with consequences. Putting him in control, creates a place of understanding that what you do and want will dictate your future.
Here is the list:
A Large Pool
He wanted to go to a place with a large pool where he could swim, since he complains that our pool is too small. We have a membership to the local lake, but he doesn’t like the water there. So we’re planning a visit to a local club!
I thought he grew out of it, but apparently he still likes it
I don’t get this one, he hates walking in the heat, he said he wants to go to a park. So here we go!
I plan to take a nice walk and will bring sandwiches and he and hubby will go fishing too, he loves doing that.
He hates going shopping, so not sure what he wants to do at the mall, but we’re going to it! Maybe he wants to check the girls out!!
I didn’t question his list, but his choices made me rethink the way I see him and his needs! The whole experience taught me that his likes and dislikes are not the same as mine!
This Friday we’re going to the Jersey shore boardwalk to do miniature golf and enjoy a slice of pizza or two there!
Don’t get me wrong, we did a lot this summer, fancy places, awesome amusement parks, but apparently he wanted just simple things … I will share how this month went with you later, but I wanted to share my experience with you!
I’m hoping if you also have an unhappy teen, that you ask questions, try to hear their side of the story, because the answer to a happy ending might be in the simple things!
Do you have a teen? Do you have these kinds of conversations with your child?
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