My son informed me two weeks ago, when I was all excited picking out a costume for him, that he doesn’t want to do Halloween anymore! I was so surprised, since he’s only 11 and I know he loves the whole getting dressed and asking for candy.
He paused and explained his reasons:
- He’s almost 6′ tall
- He’s so big nobody will want to give him candy
The reasons seemed to me more a self esteem issue than him not really wanting to do Halloween and now he’s fighting me on this since I am trying to get one of his buddies to come to our street and go trick or treating with him. My second idea was to volunteer to dress up and go out with him. Maybe I could go ahead with that idea by choosing a spooky witch costume for myself and a really scary-looking costume like shinigami Ryuk or slender man for my son. I just want him to enjoy such events before he grows up. I feel torn.
I don’t know if I’m fighting because I believe he should enjoy childhood while he can and his excuses are nothing but excuses or if I’m selfishly trying to hold on to something which is leaving: his childhood.
It was a rude awakening of things to come. No more pumpkin picking, no more rides, all of a sudden it hit me, because until last year, he was happy and willing to do all that!
Needless to say this was my face when he broke the news!
Maybe it is time to create new traditions, make a special meal, watch a spooky movie and let him give candy to people who knock on our door? Maybe have his friends from school who don’t celebrate Halloween anyway to come and do a game party?
I had to share this with you, in hopes that you would share your opinion and let me know what you think?
Aww that’s so sad. I can’t imagine my baby not wanting to do these things anymore. That’s a great idea of finding a new tradition
Last Halloween, my then 5 year old decided he just did not feel like going Trick or Treating. Of course, I fought with him & he came out for a bit NOT in costume. But he went home with Grandma to hand out candy and he was just so much happier!
I say let your son just do what he wants. Maybe he will change his mind at the very last minute. Maybe you guys can decorate the house instead or he can wear a costume to hand out candy for trick or treaters.
I have 2 big kids too and it’s hard. People always expect so much more from then based on their size then from their age.