Sitting here, having coffee…. ☕️ Hubby thought I went to bed too late working and didn’t get me up! He had good intentions, he wanted me to get some rest…But the truth is, I’ve never missed my son’s first day of school, ever! Hubby’s response: he’s not a baby anymore! So I wanted to share that teen parenting moment with you today!
That statement struck me, so hard that I wanted to share what missing my son’s first day of school taught me.
Picture this: I sat at my desk, having coffee missing the time when my son was little, when he enjoyed taking back to school pictures…a time I can never bring back. Thinking about it made me ask the question: why would I want that time back? Because I am not happy with the current teen parenting season….
Missing his first day of school was for me an eye opening experience, telling me that I need to embrace this new season in his life and enjoy the ride alongside with him, helping and supporting him in any way I can!
That was yesterday … Today was his first full day so I took a back to school picture and gave him a HUGE HUG! Wished him a happy day!
But yesterday will never be forgotten.
Not because I don’t forgive my husband for not waking me up, but because I think something finally clicked! Pushing me to understand that my son is all grown up and that I need to change the way I see him to help him in this new season of his life!
Loving him doesn’t mean holding on to something in the past! Yes, I said it!
I am starting to understand that moving on as a teenage parent doesn’t mean loving him less, it means loving him more!
Yes! Because only love helps you cope with mood swings, computer long hours, endless silence, acne, snapchat, him not wanting to go out and do things with us and needing some space.
Being a parent, at all seasons, should be about embracing the present and doing the best that we can.
Missing that first day made me realize that…
This is a new season for my son, as it is for so many teens and it is our job to stop fighting and start embracing it, offering help along the way; being there doesn’t equal controlling, being there means guiding the ride, showing that life is about making choices and the consequences will dictate the outcome.
We had a long talk over the weekend regarding his basketball goals, how much effort he’s putting into it and school in general. Part of our guiding plan, showing him it’s up to him to make those decisions, that we’re here to support him either way, but there will be consequences. Each path leads to a different direction, but it’s up to him to choose.
I’m not saying we figured things out. Not even saying I completely stopped babying my son, it will be a process. But I AM saying yesterday made me wake up to a new season and I’m ready to embrace it~
How was your child’s first day? Do you have teens? How do you deal with the fact that you can’t hold them close to you forever??? Do you have the same struggles? More on my parenting journey: HERE.
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